Thursday, June 28

Love Is ...


According to Osho, when you love a person, it’s only your selfish interests that keep you closer to that person. Love should be a selfless activity.

Consider a young baby, one who does not know what love is? One who do not know how to express his love for someone! He’s in his garden of bliss that he hardly cares for anyone but himself. He do not understands who parents are, what country or religion is (till he grows old), the only thing he cares is how to be happy and seeing such state of affairs, parents they feel delighted. But when he grows old and starts thinking, parents force the child to love them, to have respect for them, to love his country and people, have respect for them because if the child does not do all this, parents may reject him or may not love him back. So their love becomes conditional. It is this conditional love that actually makes parents expect love and respect from their child because what the child becomes today, the identity, the good values that he carries is the result of their sacrifice and love and now they expect their child to do the same, love them back!

I partially agree to this definition of love. But on the other side, OSHO also says that love is a selfless activity. You do not have to be selfish or conditional while expressing love. You can only love a person when you love yourself. Fill yourself with so much love that it emancipates (starts overflowing) from you on to others. Only then, you can love someone.

We should not expect love from anyone because this expectation comes from selfish interest that if I love you, you must love me back.

Imagine a situation where your girl says that she is love with a person who is not liked by anyone in the family (on basis of caste, religion or status) and then the parents forces her to forget him because he is not what her parents are expecting for their child. Now the parents are being selfish for their own happiness at the stake of their daughter’s happiness. They cannot see themselves sad that’s why they decide to make their child sad in the name of her future prosperity and safety.

This also brings out an interesting observation that we humans, we tend to judge a person by his appearance and may end up making wrong decisions in life. Someone has rightly said, ‘never judge a book by its cover’ so we should not assume things about persons on the basis of their appearance.

Imagine a mother feeding food to her child so that he grows healthy and another child of the same age but from a poor family watching all this. The look on his face clearly shows he hasn’t eaten anything in last 2 days and is slowly forgetting the colour of water even. Will it make us restless or we’ll accept the fact and settle down on the basis that fate will take care of such unprivileged children of god.

Love is such a pure form that its existence is only possible if you love yourself. Fill yourself with so much love that it starts to overflow. Do not put conditions on love. Do not expect anything from anyone. Make selfless love like the earth or the trees or the plants does. They only know how to give without expecting anything back. Then only we can define love and can love someone selflessly.

Sources: ‘The Book Of Man’ by OSHO

16 comments:

  1. To love someone selflessly, isn't that too ideal? Is it so bad to be selfish in love. maybe one would reach the level of ultimate staisfaction when they love selflessly. When you except nothing in return but keep giving. I think we live in a world too materialistic to love selflessly. But I wish i could achive that.

    Thought provoking post, and neatly put.

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    1. i completely agree with you jenny .. it's really very difficult to love someone selflessly .. but we can still try to give up our expectations and focus our energy only to love and care for someone without any personal gains !

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  2. You know the best quality in me is I never judge people. It doesn't evoke selfless love though but I remain little pure with my feelings. I always put myself in others shoes. Also I agree with love yourself theory. I think I should read Osho.

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    1. yes one should never judge a person by his appearance, sometimes appearances can be deceptive .. and we should also not make impression about someone by listening to someone's words ..

      very good to know that you do not judge people ..

      hey you must listen or read what Osho says .. will help you enlighten spiritually ..

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  3. Interesting topic..but its very difficult to love unconditionally...sooner or later expectation start arising...

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    1. yeah .. but that's the point .. one should not expect at all !

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  4. Very right .. love is something which I feel has been exaggerated too much around us. I doubt if any can say what love is, everyone has a different idea about it.

    As the famous song by Tina turner love is a second hand emotion.. and whats love got to do with it...

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    1. very true veer ji, love is too complex to be defined so easily ..

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  5. beautiful post
    nice definition pure love wants nothing expects nothing

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    1. yes sm, but where is this pure love .. is it existent anymore ..?

      very difficult to answer that !

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  6. I want to attempt that state where I would just keep giving without anything in return. I know I might take ages to achieve it but human can only do this because he is capable of doing anything. If he realized that love is in giving and he has also demonstrated through various great people who served others without any expectations then it's possible to normal human :-)

    Good post....

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    1. wonderful thought Savi .. yes we must strive hard to only give without expecting anything back !

      thanks for dropping by !

      rahul

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  7. Actually it's possible to love people unconditionally. If we are able to figure out the world we live in (honestly), unconditional giving is no big deal. Because we already know that we will also receive back unconditionally.

    It's difficult to put in practice for a lot of people (mainly due to the fear of looking stupid), but it's definitely possible.

    Filling oneself with Love and letting it overflow to others is an interesting thought. Thanks for bringing these thoughts to us.

    Destination Infinity

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    1. very well said Rajesh !

      thanks for dropping by ..

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    1. thank you ma'm..glad that you liked it!

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